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"What does it mean if he asks, do you love me? For the past two weekends, the guy I’ve been seeing has asked me many times... do you love me? Does that mean he loves me and is seeing where I am? or what??"

Hi Michelle,

If a guy has NOT told you he loves you AND he"s asked you many times if you love HIM it typically means several things:

He"s not good at reading your signals or signs about your feelings for him (and/or) you"re not all that good at showing them. 

He needs to hear the words to believe it as he is constantly looking for reassurance about how you feel about him.

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This could be his inability to read a woman or you"re inability to show him you care in a way he gets and understands.

Chances are it"s a little of both.

So yes - it is certainly possible he"s looking to see where you are and comparing it to himself and his own feelings towards you.

He"s insecure plus lacks confidence and a belief in himself that he"s capable of being loved; therefore he probably doesn"t like himself all that much.

Loving yourself is the precursor to being capable of accepting another one"s love.

When a man is constantly asking you this question it strongly suggest the one doing the asking does not feel worthy of love and therefore does NOT love themselves all that much.

He can actually believe YOU are too good for him.

He"s making sure you"re the one who says it first because once you do, that makes it okay for him to share his feelings with you.

Men use the word "love" sparingly because it has a lot of weight and responsibility attached to it.

It"s often perceived as the same as admitting a commitment or relationship is happening or will some time very soon.

If he"s ready for it with you but lacks the ability or know-how to share his feelings in that way AND wants to make sure you feel the same way - he"ll ask first and act later.

These are ALL the sign or mark of a type two guy.

OR he"s trying to manipulate the situation to get something like sex out of you quicker.

He could be trying to manipulate you or the situation he"s in with you.

It"s rare but happens. If a guy can get you to say it first or say it often - some men believe that gives them every reason to do whatever they want OR get whatever they want from you.

So when he asks for something more like quicker sex and if you show any hesitation you"ll often get the, "BUT you said you LOVED me!" response.

It will also come up when he trying to control you and gain power when and if you do something wrong. If you miss a text or a call - you get the, "I thought you loved me."

When this occurs a few times - the man is playing a power move and trying to gain superiority in the relationship or get dating rights to do and say whatever he wants.

Now... to answer your biggest question:

Does it mean he loves you?

Absolutely NO.

Just because a man asks you does not guarantee or predict if he loves you.

In fact - it"s a BAD thing or a huge WARNING SIGN when a guy asks you this not-so-innocent question.

Chances are it means every reason listed above:

You"re both not on the same page. There are communication issues going on.

You both have different ideas or beliefs about what love is and unless you both communicate your definitions clearly with each other - it"s often a predictor of bad things to come.

This all begins because he"s not good at reading you, you"re probably not giving him clear enough signals, and the breakdown of communication is becoming clear.

He"s insecure. Has little or no confidence with women. He doesn"t believe he"s capable of being loved AND so does not love himself all much in one VERY important way:

In his version of love - how he defines it in his own head - YES, he probably does love himself a little in that way. Not 100% and for some men that number will be very small BUT more importantly...

He"s predicting or guessing what YOUR definition of love is and by your meaning of the word, he feels incapable or finds it to be too feminine or "girly" to love himself in that way.

Guys who are like that will rarely EVER tell a woman they love her until they make sure without a doubt they"re loved back, AND they want her to say it first.

It relieves them from rejection and it"s a way of avoiding the pain, hurt, and emotional damage it does to them.

All this leads to the very common (type two guy) who feels POWERLESS in dating and relationships.

When a man feels that way - he will often attempt to gain control and power any way he can through passive-aggressive behavior and unsure questions.

It"s not always a direct manipulation of you or the situation, sure that happens BUT...

Most of the time the man is not aware he"s doing it which means he"ll continually do it because to him it just feels right.

Men who are definitely in LOVE will let you know one way or another.

Since you"re wondering if what he"s done means if he loves I"m going to assume this is a question you (and lots of other women) are wondering about their guy right now.

Well I"ve got something really special for you, a little thing I just recently shared with the wonderful members of my newsletter.

I"m not allowed to share it all publicly because it"s from a video titled:

7 Questions to Ask If He Truly Loves You.

It was written and produced for Secret Surveys - Why Men Lie and I liked the video so much I sent it to my members.

Thanks to Michael for putting it up.

It truly is a masterpiece when it comes to understanding men, love, and the all the complexities that arise from the differences between the way men see and describe love and the way women see it can be so complicated and confusing.

After reading the newsletter or watching the video you"ll no longer ever have to ask if a man loves you or not.

It"s cool self-quiz so you get INSTANT results.

As he puts, "These questions will kill and doubt and anxiety you might be feeling about a guy." 

Thanks for your great question Michelle - hope all has been answered for you.

The quick conclusion...

While there are many reasons why a guy will continually ask you if you love him, it"s often not a good sign based on the type of guy, his confidence, self-esteem, and capability to love himself.

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It definitely does not mean he loves you, there are more practical and definitive ways to find that answer out.